Thought Life by Dr Leaf

Here is an article that brings home the power of thought!  We can create all that we want, we just have to think it, long enough for it to become behavior.  The power of the subconscious brain is such that all is possible.  Create visions and then thoughts the thoughts then become the visions.


87% to 95% of the illnesses that plague us today are a direct result of our thought life. What we think about affects us physically and emotionally. It’s an epidemic of toxic emotions.

The average person has over 30,000 thoughts a day. Through an uncontrolled thought life, we create the conditions for illness; we make ourselves sick! Research shows that fear, all on its own, triggers more than 1,400 known physical and chemical responses and activates more than 30 different hormones. There are INTELLECTUAL and MEDICAL reasons to FORGIVE! Toxic waste generated by toxic thoughts causes the following illnesses: diabetes, cancer, asthma, skin problems and allergies to name just a few. Consciously control your thought life and start to detox your brain!

Medical research increasingly points to the fact that thinking and consciously controlling your thought life is one of the best ways, if not the best way of detoxing your brain. It allows you to get rid of those toxic thoughts and emotions that can consume and control your mind.

Change in your thinking is essential to detox the brain. Consciously controlling your thought life means not letting thoughts rampage through your mind. It means learning to engage interactively with every single thought that you have, and to analyse it before you decide either to accept or reject it.

How do you go about doing that? By “looking” at your mental processes. That may sound like a strange, if not impossible thing to do. After all, it’s not as if you can just crack open your skull like an egg and have a look at what is going on inside your brain.

It is possible, however, to look at your mental processes. In fact, it is not just possible, it is essential.

For example consider the following:

How many “could-have”, “would-have”, “should-have” statements have you made today?
How many “if onlys” were part of your inner vocabulary today?
How many times have you replayed in your head a conversation or situation that pained you, or one that hasn’t even occurred yet?
How many scenarios have you created of the unpredictable future?
How much is speculation taking out of your day?
How passive is your mind?
How honest are you with yourself?
Are you at cross-purposes with yourself – going through the motions, but not really committed to the goal, saying one thing but meaning another?
How distorted is your thinking? Are you forming a personal identity around for example, a disease? Do you speak about “my arthritis”, “my multiple sclerosis”, “my heart problem”?
Do you ever make comments like “nothing ever goes right for me”; “everything I touch fails”; “I always mess up”?
If you answered yes even to just one of these, your thought life needs detoxing right now.

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When I first came to Hermas, it was with high hopes balanced by a fair amount of skepticism, I admit, to resolve a long-standing negative charge around a primary relationship in my life, one I felt was haunting me, and preventing me from moving forward.   I felt “stuck”, “trapped”, and somewhat resigned to the idea that, due to the hand I was dealt, change would be difficult or impossible regarding my perceived “lot”.  Narrative therapy, (one of many modalities that informs Hermas’ approach) was appealing to me, as someone whose work has always revolved around storytelling.  However, I had a strong attachment to the earliest, seminal “chapters” of my life, especially when it came to the prism through which I viewed my mother. The imprint was strong, almost to the point of being impenetrable.  My beliefs surrounding that particular relationship seemed doggedly true, and there was enough rational evidence to support that construct because, when I came to work with Hermas, my maternal parent, with whom I had endured such a complicated and unresolved relationship, had since passed away, without my having experienced anything even approaching closure with her.  Hermas’ deeply compassionate yet “not going to let you off the hook” tactic was to look me in the eye and say, “If you want to change your story, it’s simple.” I stared at him, incredulous, wondering if, in his enlightened wisdom, he was “simply” dismissing the pain and struggle around what had always felt like an overwhelmingly complex tangle of emotions.  I blurted,  “How could you possibly say such a thing?!” . Hermas (thankfully) responded with his usual calm and clarity: “I never said it was easy.  But I promise–and you can trust me on this–it is simple.”

That distinction, for me, was the key to unlocking the door to, well, everything.  And then the work Hermas and I started to do together began in earnest, and continues many months later to bear powerful results.  By breaking down the paradigm I’d created—excavating the deep well I’d dug for myself, a dark rabbit hole sort of place that I’d willingly tumbled down, only to be buried under the weight of the story I’d believed was my own–Hermas cleared out the distracting information, everything that I, for so many years, had latched onto as a way of defining myself.  In tugging at the threads of the tale, one by one, Hermas helped me to deal with each part of the story in manageable and comprehensible pieces.  And I found that the clarity that process afforded made room for not only real and lasting healing to take place, but for major shifts to happen.  I now see what I once regarded as obstacles in my life as simple, and, in many instances, self-created barriers against making decisions that are aligned with my true self.  Wading through the “deconstruction” has not always been easy, as Hermas, with his characteristic clear-eyed honesty acknowledges, but having the gift of his intuition and steadfast support as one’s trustworthy guide, facilitates enormous growth.  Having Hermas to help sort out the “tangled web one weaves” in fabricating a life-story, removes so much of the fear associated with letting go of familiar habits and patterns that appear to serve us. Yet, when we feel comfortable and safe enough to explore the ways in which those behaviors clearly don’t, it’s astonishing how, with commitment and practice, those “old ways” can be transformed into more conscious (and healthier) choices we can then make as “awake”,  more open individuals.

The shifts that have occurred for me since I’ve begun working with Hermas are quite profound.  And my willingness to stay “stuck in a rut”, I find, has a much shorter shelf life.  I’m generally more aware now of when I’m holding on to something that doesn’t serve me; and I feel as though I have much less tolerance for allowing those things to steer my life’s course–personally, professionally, and most importantly (to me), as a wife and a mother.  My own parenting skills, my “Achilles heel” as I once referred to it,  are something I approach now with much more confidence and awareness of the ways in which I am NOT doomed to repeat, reenact, or recreate the dynamics of the relationship I used to feel so greatly influenced me, the one I shared with my own mother.  Hermas has been especially helpful to me in unlocking something I never thought possible… my capacity for forgiveness around this particular childhood scar.

Hermas has helped me discover the inner resources I’ve always had (but didn’t necessarily understand how to access) in order to address what most of us feel wedded to–the story we’ve written for ourselves.  Hermas believes we all have what we need to feel fulfilled—the very definition of living an authentic life–if only we knew how to connect with that deepest part of ourselves.   By supporting me in trusting my intuition and engaging in a subtle process of “re-training”, he’s helping me find the tools I need (and already possess) to discover my true life’s purpose.  Rather than passively enabling these middle years to be about the journey coming to a screeching halt by accepting that my life’s story has been foretold, Hermas has shown me that I am in the process of writing it.  STILL.   And, as any writer worth his/her salt knows, until you get the beginning of the story set right—which more often than not requires some rigorous rewrites—the rest will ring false.

For, as a wise gentleman once told me (which I now know is true), it’s that simple.


“As an Agape Practitioner and as a person who has been on a comprehensive, passionate, and life-saving multi-modality spiritual path for 41 years, I met with Hermas at first in regards to networking and not regarding any therapeutic request of my own. Then in a gesture of support and inquiry I bid and won some sessions with him that he had so generously donated to a silent auction. So it began that in my first session with Hermas I put on his table my most persistent achilles heel. I travel quite a bit and haven’t had very many sessions. I am still in my quest for complete resolution of this issue, but since I began working with Hermas I have begun to release and embrace quite rapidly and steadily the blocks and gifts within the former mystery. I can say right now that I have no doubt whatsoever that with Hermas as my guide and witness I will transcend this blind spot that has been with me for 46 years (but whose counting? LOL). Although his technique/method is lovely and effective, I believe he could be doing anything and it would work. Hermas is a very rare person who combines presence, insight, compassion, and deep listening with something else that is so rare in the healing and helping professions that I don’t really have words for it. This quality is related to an absence of unhelpful sentimentality almost bordering on a nonviolent anger that is akin to the avenging angelic quality of the divine masculine itself. Focus….clarity….precision of authenticity… health…boundaries…a natural energetic of cutting away that which no longer serves. I hope I have not made Hermas sound scary because he is not at all. He is a loving human being; and isn’t that just the partnership it takes for true healing to occur after all?!” Cathy O’Neill

Thank You For Triggering Me!

Thank You For Triggering Me!

FREE EVENT with Hermas Lassalle

“Discover My Signature 5 Step Proven System For Releasing Triggers That Genuinely Changes Your Relationships, Gives You Tremendous Freedom, And Finally Helps You Create The Life You Deserve.”

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If you’re like most conscious people, you’ may be aware that you need to improve and change yourself to get beyond the triggers that stop you from making clear decisions and having fulfilling relationships. The good news is that you are aware of this.

The challenge is that you’re overpowered, overwhelmed, frustrated, burnt-out and disempowered by these same triggers you are aware of; because you just do not know how to get beyond them to get the results you want.

That’s where I come in.

My name is Hermas Lassalle and I am known as The Trigger Release Coach. I have become a global authority for helping people just like you to create deeply fulfilling-aligned, relationships so that you share your gifts in an empowered way with the world and those close to you. I can help you become the centered, empowered, present vehicle for yourself, your purpose and your service.

And after being personally endorsed by many of todays evolved inspired thinkers, highly respected professionals and hundreds of clients, I have developed a simple, easy-to-follow, 5 step system to help you empower yourself….RIGHT NOW.

Here is what some of my clients say about my work.

“Working with Hermas inspired me to manage a turbulent career change and transition to my next chapter which continues to bring me the joy I was meant to feel from the work I love to do.  I learned that both the journey and the process have some really powerful lessons on how you can honor who you are and what you want.”

– Ronda Carnegie, Global Partnership Director TED.

“frankly my experience with Hermas has been life changing and I am not typically one to use such language!”

– Koorosh Rassekh, MA MFT

“I had spent about two years in conversational therapy a few years back, by the end of which I was quite frustrated as I felt that we were simply perpetuating issues by talking circles around them. Hermas blew me away. He was able to pinpoint a deep issue in just one session and provided me with great clarity as well as release from it.”

– AC , Lawyer

On October 4th At A Secret Location in Santa Monica, CA.

I’ll take a small group of conscious individuals through my transformational, 5 – step, signature process to help you become empowered and crystal clear on the most effective, efficient, and fluid way to release triggers and create healthy relationships right now.

The cool thing about this system is that it’s easy to follow, and it works!

You’ll want to attend this event if:

You get triggered.

You are in a challenging relationship and desire better communication.

You have tried everything, and you still get triggered.

You are struggling to find the best (and quickest) way to overcome your triggers.

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Why You Don’t Want To Miss This

A ticket to a Hermas Lassalle event can run upwards of $2,000 per person, and people gladly invest up to $12,000 to be a part of his exclusive private coaching practice.

So getting to attend a live event FOR FREE is truly a phenomenal opportunity.

But here’s the catch.

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Hermas Lassalle (The Trigger Release Coach)

Hermas has worked with powerful thought leaders, artists and high level professionals globally working to transform and evolve consciousness, inspiring people to live their most aware, purposeful and empowered lives. Hermas has helped rebuild fulfilling family relationships where there were none. He is also known as a powerful transformational life coach – a columnist, a consultant, he has been heard on numerous radio talk shows and been seen on TV.

Hermas lives trigger free in Santa Monica with his wife and three children.

A Force Larger than Myself

When I get quiet and surrender to a force larger than myself I allow for a guidance that is greater than I can devise.  That guidance allows me to transcend the parameters of the mind and lets me experience all of the other forces that make us who we are, like experiencing the space rather than the form that we can see.  When that space becomes visible I can see what is informing the form and can on a spirit level adjust the energy so that it may realign itself with it’s flow.  It is in the blockage of that energy that disease can begin to manifest.  The body has all it needs to mend and heal itself but when it gets off set by these unseen forces  ( to the naked eye) it literally can get shut down in the areas where it is needed most.  By allowing a force larger than ourselves into our experience we open ourselves up to the possibility of another source of healing, guidance and direction.  I encourage you to find a practice that allows you to open up to a higher power so that you may experience the grace that comes with doing that.  In a world where it can be hard to find that grace, opening up to the divine universe gives you access on a daily basis.  What is your practice?  Let me know.


“Working with Hermas was my first experience working with a transformational coach, and the opportunity seemingly fell into my lap out of nowhere. I was curious, but also somewhat resistant to the idea. I had spent about two years in conversational therapy a few years back, by the end of which I was quite frustrated as I felt that we were simply perpetuating issues by talking circles around them. Hermas blew me away. He was able to pinpoint a deep issue in just one session and provided me with great clarity as well as release from it. He is calm, gentle and I trusted him immediately. At the same time, he did not let me get away with anything. He seems to know that the truth will piss you off before it sets you free, and he is not afraid to go down that road, but does so in the kindest and most constructive way imaginable. It was exactly what I needed.”

” I have been engaged in my personal growth and healing journey for several years and am lucky to have had exceptional therapists and healers of a variety of modalities. I am grateful to them all however none have been as effective as Hermas in delivering an enduring positive shift in a very short amount of time – frankly my experience with Hermas has been life changing and I am not typically one to use such language! Hermas demonstrated a unique ability to hold space and provide complete safety while encouraging exploration of some deep rooted pain and challenged me to re-examine the truth in beliefs and schemas I have developed over the years. The truth, it turned out, is something I already know, but I didn’t have a way of connecting to it. Hermas’s unique approach goes beyond providing insight or intellectual understanding, but rather incorporates direct experience – and it is this direct experience that I have found to be the key to the relief – peace – that I have felt since our work. His approach – an eclectic mix of, meditation, hypnotherapy, narrative therapy, cognitive therapy, and gestalt therapy – was a journey into key events and experiences of my life (I am taking some liberty in trying to define Hermas’s work here, sorry my friend!). There I was able to re-experience the events and to explore the nuances of what was happening calmly and objectively. In other words I was given the opportunity to experience the truth of what happened rather than perceived truth developed through the lens of a scared boy or angry young man. To be able to have the direct experience, or better yet, to re-experience these events in truth has created a shift in the way I experience people – from my closest family and friends to new acquaintances and strangers in the street. As I write this note for those that might be considering working with Hermas I am realizing that what he really did for me was to help me find the truth in my own experience and that truth in itself has been the source of liberation. Over the weeks since our last session I find that I can re-source the sessions with Hermas when I find myself fearful or agitated leading me to the truth that is happening rather than an activated – reactive interpretation. Thanks Hermas. Koorosh Rassekh.”

“Being someone who believes, “I’ve done it all” when it comes to the myriad of healing modalities available, I was skeptical Hermas would be able to really assist me. That being said, when we met I felt moved to work with him because he is grounded and carries with him a sense of peace. Admirable qualities that led me to believe he had something special, something beyond his intellectual knowledge that would be guiding our sessions together. His words and guidance carried more weight with me because he knows and believes in each of us being unique, blameless (that’s not to say, without responsibility, but with compassionate seeing) expressions of the universe. He does not harbor judgment behind his kind words, he is real. He is genuine in his understanding of humanities search for wholeness, for creative expression, for freedom of the shadowy voices that attempt to keep our hearts stifled and our minds limited. He opens the pathways of our inner wisdom. Its like you’re getting an opportunity to hear what your “big picture” soul plan had in mind all along and frees you from believing that anything that’s happened to you was ever wrong or bad or a mistake. You see the beauty and purposeful intent of your life’s unfolding. ”

“As a coach I experience Hermas as calm, direct and unafraid. This makes me feel free to go to places I would otherwise feel constrained, as I know he will be unfazed. I find his ability to hold the space while we talk very liberating and inspiring, as my voice often comes out more forcefully than I ever could have expected. His commitment to getting to the truth is what underlies this – it is stronger than any need for politeness or good manners. And that is rare and valuable indeed. Thank you.”

“I had never worked with a transformational coach before so I wasn’t sure what to expect, but the experience of working with Hermas has far exceeded my expectations. In fact, my life improved profoundly after just one session. I would say it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.”

“There are so many valuable lessons that I learned from working with Hermas. However, the most profound experience I had in the work we did together was the realization that forgiveness stems from asking to be forgiven. Hermas and I did some deep healing on the broken relationship I had with my mother. Though there was justifiable anger on my part towards my mother, Hermas showed me that this anger was an old story that was causing me to act in ways that did not align with how I want to be in the world. he asked me to apologize to my mother for my behavior towards her over the years, and by making this bold move a healing that I had been working to achieve for what seemed like forever happened immediately. Taking responsibility for my part of the story has not only enabled me to forgive my mom, but I have been able to apply this lesson to many aspects of my life.

Hermas was good at helping me define what my goals and priorities are and providing simple, useful tools for me to use to help me achieve them.

I went to Hermas wanting to draw a new career map for myself. I had an idea of what I wanted to do, but it was vague, and I needed help defining it. Along the way, we explored many different realms of consciousness that were often uncomfortable to tread, and seemed to be leading me astray from my original intent in working with him. But, looking back, I can see that it was necessary to explore some of those realms, and in fact, I left Hermas with much more focus and direction in my career goals.” Glendene Wolf

“There is no doubt that Hermas has a unique set of skills.  There may be many others who share those same skills, but what makes Hermas “unique” is his ability to share those skills with others.  They key for me was awareness.  Once Hermas helped me become aware of emotions, desires and conflicts within myself that I had not seen before, a whole new world opened up for me.  A world of possibilites.  A world with forward movement.  And most important of all…it was kind of fun!  That’s not to say that there isn’t work involved.  But if you’re willing to do the work, the payoff is immense.  There is simply no way you can go wrong by seeking out Hermas Lassalle and experiencing his particular process of Transformational Coaching & Spiritual Counseling.” Tamara Sobel


“Hermas created a very confident, comfortable environment. The work we did went very deep. Hermas didn’t attempt to explain and categorize all the things coming up as some therapists I’ve worked with do. Instead we focused on a journey that would yield a positive shift. Which was the result.”

” Hermas is a brilliant coach. The depth of his insight and caring is immeasurable. He has helped me find my center again in a blinding storm of challenging circumstances. As a coach, you could do no better than Hermas Lassalle.”

“Look at me I’m flying!” The depth of your listening as I was gently guided on a journey helped me create a space to safely explore what had been undermining the foundations of my being. I moved through my fear of abandonment and was transformed in an instant, I made the leap, abandonment without the fear is so much fun and so ME!! I can and will access those lessons I learnt on the way. I feel like I am on track, walking with joy and looking to be surprised and delighted by the adventures ahead. Thank you.
Emily Lampard

What can I say about Hermas Lassalle? All is right in the world. After aeons. Everything is bliss. And it is not a cloud, nor a bubble that can burst. It is reality and Hermas has taken me to a place where I can access this reality and embrace it and simply basque in it – and live my life the way that I was meant to live it. All is right in my world and I am indebted to Hermas. He is brilliant, insightful, unusually grounded, and has a voracious appetite for what lies beneath, in between and above me. Our work together has helped me to meet the challenge of sharing my gifts with the world. Ready or not, here I come.

“Coaching has enabled me to move forward into a more engaged life by setting goals, confronting myself and demystifying my fears. Hermas is a wonderful guide and partner in this process and contributes encouragement, discipline and insight as needed. Hermas, thank you for helping me to honor my commitments to myself and to stay in action.”

“To sum it up best, I can honestly say that having just one live session with Hermas brought me to a direct and immediate experience of my true self.”

“We were able to drive right into the most important issue at hand for me as an adult, and that is reviewing the stories I had told and re-told myself about how my life was as a child. Stories that subsequently would mold my experiences as I grew into the man I am today.”

Usually, I only had such experiences in the face of tragedy, or after investing much time in therapy, or in meditation. This time, it came right to the surface, and spoke words of pure truth, and inspiration. For the first time in ages, I truly felt as one. ”

“Hermas has been a huge help in getting me to recognize my true potential. He has been very effective in showing me where my hang ups lie and how to deal with them so that I can focus on my inner power as a positive influence to my immediate environment. THANK YOU HERMAS! I continue to work with Hermas to improve my skills on listening to my instincts and following them thru to completion.”

“Hermas’s unique insight and unbiased coaching comes straight from a generous and wise heart. He has a natural ability at shinning a light into our blind spots.”

“No one ever grows by not understanding. Connecting with Hermas and taking his coaching session allowed me to uncover a deep need to be heard that I always knew was there but never knew why. When I wanted to rush through, he held me there and walked with me hand in hand until we got to the finish line…. together. When fear kicked in and my mental faculties tried to forget the pain, his understanding of my process allowed me to gently remember the missing component. That was what I was looking for to heal, make the connection and grow into what I yearn for now. ”

“Sensitive, perceptive and focused Hermas really helped me get on track and sort out what I wanted from my life, creating new directions in tune with who I really am, under all the stuff that covers up the glorious true me.”

“I really enjoy my coaching sessions with Hermas. He provides a space where I can truly get in contact with who I am and learn from myself. No matter how down I feel when we start our sessions, Hermas is always able to get me to distinguish what layers of meaning I have given to events in my life. Then I am able to resolve the issue and powerfully take on my life again.”

“When I first reached out to Hermas, I was in a great deal of pain, emotionally, physically and spiritually. A dark depression hung over me and anxiety plagued me. I was hoping to stop feeling so bad, but I had not expected to start feeling so good, so soon! My problems didn’t suddenly disappear, but he showed me that my problems, which I had allowed to overwhelm me, could simply become life-situations to be solved. Hermas has a relaxed, gentle way about him that puts me at ease and helps make the process focused yet fun. And he always reminds me that I am the one doing the work, I am the one making the choices. But I know his presence, guidance and witness to my work makes this process a lot easier. Thank you Hermas.”

“Hermas Lassalle has showed me that life is about identifying my uncomfortable feelings and confronting them in order to make myself comfortable enough to own or release them. the physical experience of this is both intense and enlightening!”

“Hermas has an unbelievable perception of energy, space and shifts that give him an opportunity to help me identify my blockages. he operates in a way that encourages trust and open heartedness.”

“Hermas my brother he tunes in, he listens, he shares your joys and your sorrows and he gently guides you to a new life.”


What is Emotional Release?

What is emotional release?

When you were young you experienced life through judgmental eyes and ears. That judgement created stories that you still carry around with you today, stories which do not serve you. In fact these stories inhibit your freedom as the behavior that they evoke is that of the child who created them. By working with the child in you, you can release the trapped energy through expression, understanding and forgiveness. This release will change your behavior today.

What is Transformational Coaching & Spiritual Counseling

Transformational Coaching & Spiritual Counseling is a process through which we seek to find out who we really are at the center of our beings. Most of us are so busy trying to get to the top of our professions, to be the best parents and good citizens that we end up spending too little time answering the most important question we can ask ourselves – “Who am I?” Each individual has a unique and purposeful talent. Without knowing who we are, we are rarely able to find that thing we can do better than anybody else. And without that directed, fulfilling movement toward our ultimate destiny, we inevitably stumble into the sense that there is something missing from our lives. Frustration, which often leads to crisis and/or depression, is often the wake up call.

Life’s hiccups are opportunistic cracks in the firmament of our lives. The coaching and spiritual counseling profession has been called into being by these and similar pitfalls in our complex society today. A coach/spiritual counselor provides an individual with the opportunity to move forward, through powerful questioning, acute listening, guidance and a map for real action, towards a new perspective and ultimate change. On a practical level, a coach/spiritual counselor works as a one to one guide helping to develop a keen awareness of one’s process. The interfacing (communicating not only on an auditory level but also through sensory data, mood shifts, pace, energy, emotion and reaction to environment) that takes place between client and coach/spiritual counselor is an exploration of values and a cultivation of a deep sense of self, without which it is difficult to find true fulfillment and meaning.

An open trusting relationship is crucial to this exploration. Without judgment one can learn as much from failure as from accomplishment.

A coach/spiritual counselor creates an environment where the only consequence of truth is growth and learning. When we are not able to access our own truth (as we are often not) a good coach/spiritual counselor has the acuity to help guide one through the chaos and fog. Where there is courage to tell the truth the client gets a model in the art of “being straight” and is set on a practical path to dealing with the gremlin or “little voice” that often abhors change and demands the status quo. Becoming conscious of the forces at work within us liberates our fears and opens the gateway for walking a path toward a positive and meaningful future.

The Transformational Coaching & Spiritual Counseling profession has experienced excellent results in helping people to create real and consistent results in their lives. There is not an individual out there who would not benefit from the awareness that Transformational Coaching & Spiritual Counseling brings (no matter the issues they are searching to define). A few years ago the question often asked outside of the Transformational Coaching & Spiritual Counseling community was, “what is a life coach?” Today it is “who is your life coach?” Find a good Life Coach who moves and inspires you. You will never see your life in the same way again.

How do you release?

Yesterday after my posting I was asked “how do you release?”   Here is one way to release.

Releasing really comes down to you being aware (this is the first step! awareness that you are holding on to a way of being)  of how much holding on costs you emotionally, energetically and physically.   Holding on to all that taxes your wellbeing and  is not necessary!  Release that baggage and you may find yourself feeling unconstricted, lighter, freer and all with more energy.

So how do you let go?  Once you have established that you are holding on to a way of being ask your self what’s the story behind it?  Could be a story from your childhood or your teenage years.  Once you have a story in mind ask yourself who was there, present in that story.  When you have a person in mind reflect on what it was that was unfinished or unexpressed between you both.  Unexpressed emotion, feelings and or thoughts are the building blocks of resentment and anger – Resentment and anger are the glue that holds the behavior to you.

Release the Anger or resentment by being fully expressed to that person.  You do not have to do this with the other person, you can create a conversation in your mind with that person and imagine them interacting with you.  In your imaginary world have them respond to you as you are fully expressed with them.  When they respond to you imagine them responding not from their personality as you know it but rather from their heart personality or from a place of pure love, what would they say to you then?  This conversation can provide you with the fertile ground for understanding and forgiveness and or release.  Once they are released you are done on that level, you have let go and all the baggage that went with what you were holding on to will now be gone!

Then keep an open heart and see what you receive.

Give it a try and let me know how you do and what you receive or get in touch with any questions!   Email me at

When we release we receive.

When we release we receive. I experienced the other day a client who instead of going through the usual motions of understanding and then forgiving (as can be the process in being fully expressed to one you hold a grudge or some anger or guilt or shame) her father, went straight to “I release you” instead of I forgive you, as she released her father (who had been dead for many years now) and was experiencing this process, feeling the space created by  the release she suddenly blurted out in tears ” I am receiving all the love that was held back by my holding my father in this way (that she released). She got to experience that withheld love that she had kept from herself for all those 35 years!

A truly remarkable experience for someone who held anger at her father for the way he treated her as a child and therefore had never experienced this love!

Anger blocks out love in order to receive the love you need to release the anger!  In order to receive the love and abundance that is ours to experience we need to release and let go to make space for the receiving.  Love is available to us all in wonderfully abundant portions.  What in your life can you let go of that will bring about that which you desire to receive?  Think about it for a while as there are many subjects or topics that releasing and receiving cover!!

Even the word release has a tremendous amount of power.  Just uttering out loud “I release ………………”  can in itself help to let go of that which you wish to let go of!

and then…. Out loud utter ” I receive …………….”

We are extraordinary beings capable of extraordinary acts of humanness.  Feel the pulse, the wave of “I release – I receive”

In your receiving….Hermas