A Force Larger than Myself

When I get quiet and surrender to a force larger than myself I allow for a guidance that is greater than I can devise.  That guidance allows me to transcend the parameters of the mind and lets me experience all of the other forces that make us who we are, like experiencing the space rather than the form that we can see.  When that space becomes visible I can see what is informing the form and can on a spirit level adjust the energy so that it may realign itself with it’s flow.  It is in the blockage of that energy that disease can begin to manifest.  The body has all it needs to mend and heal itself but when it gets off set by these unseen forces  ( to the naked eye) it literally can get shut down in the areas where it is needed most.  By allowing a force larger than ourselves into our experience we open ourselves up to the possibility of another source of healing, guidance and direction.  I encourage you to find a practice that allows you to open up to a higher power so that you may experience the grace that comes with doing that.  In a world where it can be hard to find that grace, opening up to the divine universe gives you access on a daily basis.  What is your practice?  Let me know.

How do you release?

Yesterday after my posting I was asked “how do you release?”   Here is one way to release.

Releasing really comes down to you being aware (this is the first step! awareness that you are holding on to a way of being)  of how much holding on costs you emotionally, energetically and physically.   Holding on to all that taxes your wellbeing and  is not necessary!  Release that baggage and you may find yourself feeling unconstricted, lighter, freer and all with more energy.

So how do you let go?  Once you have established that you are holding on to a way of being ask your self what’s the story behind it?  Could be a story from your childhood or your teenage years.  Once you have a story in mind ask yourself who was there, present in that story.  When you have a person in mind reflect on what it was that was unfinished or unexpressed between you both.  Unexpressed emotion, feelings and or thoughts are the building blocks of resentment and anger – Resentment and anger are the glue that holds the behavior to you.

Release the Anger or resentment by being fully expressed to that person.  You do not have to do this with the other person, you can create a conversation in your mind with that person and imagine them interacting with you.  In your imaginary world have them respond to you as you are fully expressed with them.  When they respond to you imagine them responding not from their personality as you know it but rather from their heart personality or from a place of pure love, what would they say to you then?  This conversation can provide you with the fertile ground for understanding and forgiveness and or release.  Once they are released you are done on that level, you have let go and all the baggage that went with what you were holding on to will now be gone!

Then keep an open heart and see what you receive.

Give it a try and let me know how you do and what you receive or get in touch with any questions!   Email me at   hermas@lassallecoaching.com

When we release we receive.

When we release we receive. I experienced the other day a client who instead of going through the usual motions of understanding and then forgiving (as can be the process in being fully expressed to one you hold a grudge or some anger or guilt or shame) her father, went straight to “I release you” instead of I forgive you, as she released her father (who had been dead for many years now) and was experiencing this process, feeling the space created by  the release she suddenly blurted out in tears ” I am receiving all the love that was held back by my holding my father in this way (that she released). She got to experience that withheld love that she had kept from herself for all those 35 years!

A truly remarkable experience for someone who held anger at her father for the way he treated her as a child and therefore had never experienced this love!

Anger blocks out love in order to receive the love you need to release the anger!  In order to receive the love and abundance that is ours to experience we need to release and let go to make space for the receiving.  Love is available to us all in wonderfully abundant portions.  What in your life can you let go of that will bring about that which you desire to receive?  Think about it for a while as there are many subjects or topics that releasing and receiving cover!!

Even the word release has a tremendous amount of power.  Just uttering out loud “I release ………………”  can in itself help to let go of that which you wish to let go of!

and then…. Out loud utter ” I receive …………….”

We are extraordinary beings capable of extraordinary acts of humanness.  Feel the pulse, the wave of “I release – I receive”

In your receiving….Hermas


We create that which we are triggered.

When we work on ourselves we release those close to us and thus change our relation with them.  Often we want those around us to change so that we do not have to suffer from their behavior.  Yet if we release the perspective we hold that they trigger in us,  they will automatically change towards us!  People respond to the energy we give out.  If we are giving (from a subconscious place) negative energy even though we may deny it or hide it from those that trigger us to react that way will feel it and respond accordingly.. they move away or are defensive back to us.

Therefore if you recognize that what you are responding to you created, then you know that you can change their response by releasing (from your subconscious) that negative energy triggered!  We all have the ability to self help if we just listen to our body wisdom for a few minutes a day, to train ourselves in that language, in the subtle nuances our gut/intuition shares with us.

By releasing those past perspective we free ourselves to be lighter and more present thus allowing us to follow our true divine path and deepen our relationships.

Release the Baggage Collector

I was made aware yesterday of the amounts of baggage I carry around with me that I am not conscious of.  This baggage had a very subtle and yet powerful way of throwing me off track.  I only noticed the power of it when it came into my consciousness, up to that point I was not aware that I even carried that baggage!  The subtle way in which it showed up hidden in the habits that formed a large part of my day.  The routine that I took for granted is really just these habits repeating themselves over and over again.  When we break routine we allow ourselves the opportunity to see or experience that yearning for the habit, we want it back in our lives as it serves a purpose albeit a subtle purpose!  So how does this baggage translate to subtle behavior and how can we put down the baggage and change our habits.  As I became conscious of my behavior yesterday I recognised that there was a need not being met in that moment, I tracked the way I was feeling to an experience from when I was 13 and did a healing.  I forgave myself and my mother and released the story I had around projects.  In the healing I had my needs met and was able to let go!  I no longer carry that piece of baggage and my step is lighter!   Om Shanti

The blessing of our distress…..if you work with it.

A client came in to the session the other day filled with agitated frustration, there was a moment where I wondered how I would work with him as he was so agitated.  As soon as I asked where he had felt this way before he blurted out……and the session began.  He took himself back through all the times and ages his relationship with his father had resulted in him feeling this way.  I am reminded here how being full of  emotion is a great way to access and work on yourself, you are open, wide open infact.  A pathway to your subconscious  opens up and if you follow, you are led, right to the area where in this case the frustration/agitation came from.  Our body/mind is wise and if listened to will always lead you to where you need to go to clear out unwanted emotional baggage.  This individual was able to let go of old thought and feeling patterns through understanding and forgiveness, which changed his relationship with his father.  What I find so fascinating is that through his release of negative energy towards his father, (frustrated, agitated anger) his father then related to him un-promted in a completely new way.  Thus the work done on self affects those around us and how they then relate to us!

Discussion on Forgiveness

Helping release conflict in our lives by embracing forgiveness.

Once you have taken responsibility for your part in any conflict and you now own your part in what happened you can forgive the other by releasing all the negative energy you were carrying around with you and in turn forgive and free yourself.

The trick is to understand the power of forgiveness. Saying those words: “I forgive you” are often the hardest words to utter. They hold the key to your freedom, freedom from the shackles that our stories impose upon us. Find a scenario in your life that you would never forgive in a hundred years. Do you feel any weight around this issue? Does it bring you joy or pain? Ask your self what would you feel like if that weight were lifted. Who would you be if the issue were no more. The thing to remember is that all issues we hold exist in our own personal perception of what happened, (we make up what happened to suite our identity or ego at that time). Ask your self if holding on to that rightful blame brings you personally a deep peace?  What needs to be communicated from that time that has not been?  Being fully expressed around any issue will ease the internal tension immensely.

If the first step of this peace process was to take responsibility then forgiveness is the part of letting go.

Create some meditation time away from distraction where you will not be disturbed. Close your eyes and allow your breathing to take you to a deep calm space within…deeper…breath…deeper. Ask yourself these questions below, letting the answers be. Do not make more of them than that which you receive. There are no right or wrong answers, just your answers given to you as per your understanding at this time and your willingness to be totally honest with yourself. Do not write you answers down, trust that will remember all that you need to.

Forgiveness questions.

Note: Preface each question with “By the Grace of The Universe, at this time,…”

A) – what stops me from forgiving myself? – how do I forgive myself? – how would The Universe have me forgive myself? – what is forgiveness when it comes from the Grace of The Universe?

– what is my gift for peace when I have fully forgiven myself or allowed myself to be forgiven by the Grace of The Universe?

B) By the Grace of The Universe, at this time, … – who is the “victim” in me? – who is the “persecutor/victimizer” in me? (the “racist”, the “enemy”, the “terrorist”.) – who is the “savior” in me?

– how would The Universe have me forgive these aspects in myself? – how would The Universe have me forgive these aspects in others?

C) By the Grace of The Universe, at this time, … – how may I include the “other” to bring unity to myself? – what is the potential for world peace when I include the “other”? – how is it when all parts of me are fully in harmony?

Did you learn anything new around forgiveness? From what you have learnt what can you apply to your life? The harmony that we feel within has a direct reflection on the World. Graciously giving to yourself in this way is part of accepting and recognizing all the different parts that make you up and working with them. Forgiveness is a powerful tool in healing both the world and ourselves.  Let me know what you found out.  I will be writing more on forgiveness.  Om Shanti. Hermas

Hello world!

Transformational Coaching & Spiritual Counseling is a process through which we seek to find out who we really are at the center of our beings. Most of us are so busy trying to get to the top of our professions, to be the best parents and good citizens that we end up spending too little time answering the most important question we can ask ourselves – “Who am I?” Each individual has a unique and purposeful talent. Without knowing who we are, we are rarely able to find that thing we can do better than anybody else. And without that directed, fulfilling movement toward our ultimate destiny, we inevitably stumble into the sense that there is something missing from our lives. Frustration, which often leads to crisis and/or depression, is often the wake up call.