We create that which we are triggered.

When we work on ourselves we release those close to us and thus change our relation with them.  Often we want those around us to change so that we do not have to suffer from their behavior.  Yet if we release the perspective we hold that they trigger in us,  they will automatically change towards us!  People respond to the energy we give out.  If we are giving (from a subconscious place) negative energy even though we may deny it or hide it from those that trigger us to react that way will feel it and respond accordingly.. they move away or are defensive back to us.

Therefore if you recognize that what you are responding to you created, then you know that you can change their response by releasing (from your subconscious) that negative energy triggered!  We all have the ability to self help if we just listen to our body wisdom for a few minutes a day, to train ourselves in that language, in the subtle nuances our gut/intuition shares with us.

By releasing those past perspective we free ourselves to be lighter and more present thus allowing us to follow our true divine path and deepen our relationships.

Release the Baggage Collector

I was made aware yesterday of the amounts of baggage I carry around with me that I am not conscious of.  This baggage had a very subtle and yet powerful way of throwing me off track.  I only noticed the power of it when it came into my consciousness, up to that point I was not aware that I even carried that baggage!  The subtle way in which it showed up hidden in the habits that formed a large part of my day.  The routine that I took for granted is really just these habits repeating themselves over and over again.  When we break routine we allow ourselves the opportunity to see or experience that yearning for the habit, we want it back in our lives as it serves a purpose albeit a subtle purpose!  So how does this baggage translate to subtle behavior and how can we put down the baggage and change our habits.  As I became conscious of my behavior yesterday I recognised that there was a need not being met in that moment, I tracked the way I was feeling to an experience from when I was 13 and did a healing.  I forgave myself and my mother and released the story I had around projects.  In the healing I had my needs met and was able to let go!  I no longer carry that piece of baggage and my step is lighter!   Om Shanti

The blessing of our distress…..if you work with it.

A client came in to the session the other day filled with agitated frustration, there was a moment where I wondered how I would work with him as he was so agitated.  As soon as I asked where he had felt this way before he blurted out……and the session began.  He took himself back through all the times and ages his relationship with his father had resulted in him feeling this way.  I am reminded here how being full of  emotion is a great way to access and work on yourself, you are open, wide open infact.  A pathway to your subconscious  opens up and if you follow, you are led, right to the area where in this case the frustration/agitation came from.  Our body/mind is wise and if listened to will always lead you to where you need to go to clear out unwanted emotional baggage.  This individual was able to let go of old thought and feeling patterns through understanding and forgiveness, which changed his relationship with his father.  What I find so fascinating is that through his release of negative energy towards his father, (frustrated, agitated anger) his father then related to him un-promted in a completely new way.  Thus the work done on self affects those around us and how they then relate to us!

Respecting & honoring the life force that is greater than ourselves.

I was shown the other day how the power of forgiveness clearly shifted a great burdensome weight from the shoulders of an individual. It reminded me that we cannot underestimate the power of the forces that we cannot see! The very deep emotional release that took place freed up the psyche and a pattern of nightly distress was released.

We are given and or shown every nano second how to be that is in alignment with our true nature in accordance with the natural balance of this planet, yet we only hear or listen to 1% of that direction that is given to us 100% of the time. When we let ourselves receive from a force greater than ourselves we invite guidance that encompasses more than we can conceive with our mind and worldly experience. Guidance that is in line with our origin. We have become a blunt tool, as the lessons for sharpening our selves have been warped and polluted by our overactive ego, which cannot see beyond its own existence. When we understand that our ego is often controlled by our shadow (which can include fear, anger) and not our light, it makes sense that we get caught in holding onto negative emotion as it is that negative emotion which gives our ego a reason to exist!

When we surrender to a force greater than ourselves we open up to an experience of that ego for what it really is. Allowing us to address the balance, the balance of light and dark. When mystical experiences occur (ones that we cannot explain with our mind) we can very easily put it down to luck or coincidence discarding the subtle vital signs of a force greater than ourselves at work.

Setting Intentions

New Year’s Intentions.

I have been thinking a lot about how to make our New Year’s Resolutions more effective and long lasting.
In fact I have come up with a pretty fantastic solution to make your desired shifts.

Setting intentions and goals and then leaving them to manifest on their own, is like planting a seed and not watering it or giving it fertilizer.
If we are not attentive and nurturing gardeners, we know that if we plant the seed and then come back after six months to check on it,
it will likely be dried up and dead by then. We easily become disillusioned and perhaps even give up on setting goals and intentions – as we come to believe that any more we set will be doomed too.

The intentions we set must be revisited every day so that it becomes part of our everyday reality and thus manifest.

In order to create this intention and goal statement you must give yourself at least 1 hour of uninterrupted time alone ( more if you can) to get down all that you wish for yourself to be.  Start by putting all your random thoughts and ideas down for what you want and how you want to be as if there were no restrictions whatsoever.  Then edit them and rewrite them play with them, doodle them till you are ready to choose around 8 intentions and or goals.

I suggest you create a colorful collage /list of your intentions and goals for your everyday life.  Be specific in your choice of words and be specific in what you want.

Read this intention (visualization) board out loud to yourself every evening before you go to bed, have yourself be so familiar with what you set that you can repeat the whole list any time of day!

Remember be consistent in doing this every day and you will manifest your goals and or intentions.

I would love to hear how you are doing and whether you need help in this process .

Set up an appointment and come work with me on creating your intentions and a daily schedule for visiting them to have them become a reality in your every day life.

Remember this is not just what you want in your life but who do you want to be in your life?

Remember this is not a one time intensive! no matter how many candles you light!  It is in the exercising (verbalizing) of your intentions on a daily basis that they come from your mind into your reality.

For the month of January if you refer a client to me you get a free session!  So this could be my gift to you.

and if you book a six session series I will throw in the last session for free.

What if every day was an opportunity to set your goals and intentions.
We all know that the law of attraction happens as a story, a mantra or set of images are repeatedly experienced over and over.

Discussion on Forgiveness

Helping release conflict in our lives by embracing forgiveness.

Once you have taken responsibility for your part in any conflict and you now own your part in what happened you can forgive the other by releasing all the negative energy you were carrying around with you and in turn forgive and free yourself.

The trick is to understand the power of forgiveness. Saying those words: “I forgive you” are often the hardest words to utter. They hold the key to your freedom, freedom from the shackles that our stories impose upon us. Find a scenario in your life that you would never forgive in a hundred years. Do you feel any weight around this issue? Does it bring you joy or pain? Ask your self what would you feel like if that weight were lifted. Who would you be if the issue were no more. The thing to remember is that all issues we hold exist in our own personal perception of what happened, (we make up what happened to suite our identity or ego at that time). Ask your self if holding on to that rightful blame brings you personally a deep peace?  What needs to be communicated from that time that has not been?  Being fully expressed around any issue will ease the internal tension immensely.

If the first step of this peace process was to take responsibility then forgiveness is the part of letting go.

Create some meditation time away from distraction where you will not be disturbed. Close your eyes and allow your breathing to take you to a deep calm space within…deeper…breath…deeper. Ask yourself these questions below, letting the answers be. Do not make more of them than that which you receive. There are no right or wrong answers, just your answers given to you as per your understanding at this time and your willingness to be totally honest with yourself. Do not write you answers down, trust that will remember all that you need to.

Forgiveness questions.

Note: Preface each question with “By the Grace of The Universe, at this time,…”

A) – what stops me from forgiving myself? – how do I forgive myself? – how would The Universe have me forgive myself? – what is forgiveness when it comes from the Grace of The Universe?

– what is my gift for peace when I have fully forgiven myself or allowed myself to be forgiven by the Grace of The Universe?

B) By the Grace of The Universe, at this time, … – who is the “victim” in me? – who is the “persecutor/victimizer” in me? (the “racist”, the “enemy”, the “terrorist”.) – who is the “savior” in me?

– how would The Universe have me forgive these aspects in myself? – how would The Universe have me forgive these aspects in others?

C) By the Grace of The Universe, at this time, … – how may I include the “other” to bring unity to myself? – what is the potential for world peace when I include the “other”? – how is it when all parts of me are fully in harmony?

Did you learn anything new around forgiveness? From what you have learnt what can you apply to your life? The harmony that we feel within has a direct reflection on the World. Graciously giving to yourself in this way is part of accepting and recognizing all the different parts that make you up and working with them. Forgiveness is a powerful tool in healing both the world and ourselves.  Let me know what you found out.  I will be writing more on forgiveness.  Om Shanti. Hermas

Hello world!

Transformational Coaching & Spiritual Counseling is a process through which we seek to find out who we really are at the center of our beings. Most of us are so busy trying to get to the top of our professions, to be the best parents and good citizens that we end up spending too little time answering the most important question we can ask ourselves – “Who am I?” Each individual has a unique and purposeful talent. Without knowing who we are, we are rarely able to find that thing we can do better than anybody else. And without that directed, fulfilling movement toward our ultimate destiny, we inevitably stumble into the sense that there is something missing from our lives. Frustration, which often leads to crisis and/or depression, is often the wake up call.